The idea of life without sex for 30-days might be a no-brainer for many parents whose priorities may have shifted to their children instead of their relationship. But those are the people that New York Times best-selling author and well-known relationship expert Dr. Ian Kerner is trying to reach.

“The premise is that, when sex is taken out of the picture, you begin to REALLY think about it again, and REALLY want it. Parents begin to notice their partners as attractive, sexual beings, not just their partner in raising kids. But it’s not all about the sex.”

With his new book Sex Detox, Dr. Kerner presents a 30-day couples and singles plan that challenges readers to take a long hard look at their relationships. “Through a series of daily exercises and quizzes, couples are encouraged to explore their feelings about themselves and their partners. Some of it is sexual in nature, but a lot if it touches on emotional aspects also.”

Our bloggers have been reading Dr. Kerner’s new book with open eyes. And here’s some of what they’re saying about it.

It wasn’t surprising that when bloggers discovered the book involved no sex for 30 days, a few mouths dropped wide open. Here’s one dad’s take:

Sure, some of you are nodding sagely, and some of you a spewing your beverages while bellowing WTF? I found myself in the latter category… but reading on, I had to concede that Kerner has a point. Denying yourself something that you want, something that you really crave, while it is sitting right there on the couch with you… and probably thinking similarly randy thoughts about you, can really increase the mental aspect of sex… which has to be better than having sex just because you are supposed to every other Tuesday night.

Some bloggers appreciated his friendly tone, and the ease of the approach, but felt it was more geared towards women. “The only drawback to this book is that it seems to be slanted to women in my opinion. Besides the hot pink cover, none of the men I questioned said they would care to participate in the journaling exercises.” 

Our reviewers noted that it definitely requires a commitment from both parties involved in the relationship. “While Dr. Kerner makes several interesting points and provides very pertinent research backing up his ideas, I didn’t like that he proposes undertaking a Sex Detox whether or not your partner agrees. I don’t know about you, but if my partner up and decided to take on a 30 day sexual fast, and didn’t give me a say in it, I’d be pretty pissed. It would definitely drive a wedge in our relationship. I think this is the type of thing a couple has to agree on, or at least agree that it is an area that needs improvement and assistance. ”

But most of the bloggers noted that the book made sense. “I’m not going to give you a detailed description of the plan, but I’ll tell you, I think that Kerner is on to something. Reading his plan, I think that it would be good for anyone who thinks that there is anything toxic in their lives, from sex, to friendships, or even the beginnings of substance abuse problems.” 

Another added “I’d definitely recommend this book to any couple that has been married or in a long term relationship for more than a year or so. Emotional intimacy is key to a successful marriage, and what better way to facilitate that than great sex?”

Check out more reviews of Sex Detox, and make sure to listen to Dr. Kerner LIVE on Motherhood Uncensored Radio 2/20 9-9:30pm EST!

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